Thankfuly I don't have this problem. I'm already a gamer chick and I converted my man to MMO's

So our casual time together sometimes involves gaming and we tend to enjoy the same games to boot.

you guys should talk. you should explain why you play games when you get home.

mebbe the girl thinks you prioritize the game more than her.

she probably just wants to spend time with you.

i play a  lot of games and I've had some boys react the same way - you just need to explain to them and know what your priorities are.

is she worth it? are you willing to give up game time to be with her? has she sacrficed her time to be with you?

good thing my wubby and i play games together heh so i dont have this dilemma right now :3

Originally posted by DeaconX

My lady and I are both gamers... and both play MMO's... unfortunately, we tend to like very different games.

 

She's all about TERA and I'm enjoying GW2 and TSW.  I play some TERA with her occasionally but I can never play it for very long before I get sick of it.

This is the best possible scenario.

You both enjoy gaming and both enjoy different games.  Every so often you join eachother in their chosen vice.  That sounds great to me.

I have never been lucky enough to have a girlfriend who also games, so count yourself lucky no matter what her cup of tea is.

(if I could only find a girl who loves to pvp.........that would be great.)

If you really dont spend that much time on an MMO - I would talk to her and explain that playing an MMO, as silly it might seem to her, is that special time you have for yourself to have fun and relax.

My boyfriend and I had the same talk, only he was the one who complained about me "wasting" time on computer games. Lol :)

Keep your hobbies and ho's separate.

It's the only way.

Originally posted by XAPGames

My best retort is "This thing's not going to finish itself".

 

A statement heard daily in the heads of women around the world after the majority of men finish "the deed", although usually proceeded by "WTF get back in there..."

Let me have u then jk.... but i just made her read some of the post that y`ll posted and she was like "i dont care what they say, this is between me and you not then."

right now im thinking she might just be doing this to mess with me.

Originally posted by DeaconX

My lady and I are both gamers... and both play MMO's... unfortunately, we tend to like very different games.

 

She's all about TERA and I'm enjoying GW2 and TSW.  I play some TERA with her occasionally but I can never play it for very long before I get sick of it.

Oh my gosh me and my boyfriend are the exact opposite. I love GW2/TSW and he loves TERA. How do people even play that game T_T it's so bad...

Originally posted by pmw4friend

Playing mmo`s with your girlfriend

I`m an mmo player and always will be. I been playing mmo`s for as long as i can remember. I only been with my girl a couple of months.

She does not like to see me playing a lot, so when im playing she will be like " Why do you spend more time with playing that stupid game?"

but the fact is that i spend most of my time with her or at work, i only play when im tired and want to relax. so when she says that i be like "women you better come your horses, i play when ever the hell i want to play! so come your a** down im going to play whether you like it or not..."

so my question to you all is "should your girlfriend/boyfriend let you play mmo`s or not let you play because they want you to spend more time with them."

If you'd rather spend time with your MMO than your girlfriend, maybe you should reconsider your relationship?

At first I had this exact issue :D 

I used to play that wretched game called WOW for far too many hours a week. It was more critical than just casual playing, I was an officer/co-leader of a HC raiding guild so every other night was raiding night and my gf was going mad about it after a few months because I'd spend every other night raiding and not with her... So we had some arguments about it and the usual, you know it. :)

So then I decided I'll devote even more time to her, so I took a break for about a month or 2 from HC raiding and I've spent more time with her but, I was clever enough to try and introduce her with other MMORPG games during that time... Some games with theme she'd really like, I've told her.. If I'm doing something that she wants, I'd like her to try and do something that I like to do in my free time. So during that time she kinda liked playing mmorpgs with me. After some time I offered her to play WOW with me, bought her the game and everything, and we actually played wow together ... She even shared that account with my sister for a little while :D

We stopped playing WOW not long after that, but it was worth it because ever since that she likes MMORPG games and we're playing them together, we even bought XBOX 360 so we can play games, we're both playing GW2, I'm playing EVE (she doesn't get how that game can be fun to me so she doesn't play it, but she doesn't groan as well when I'm playing it) and I just showed her how cool characters (Porios I think) look in TERA so she might even play that  (I'm not playing TERA)...

We're not really playing every day because well, times changed and we don't have much free time anymore to play games but that 1 - 2 months 4 years ago was damn worth it :D

Originally posted by pmw4friend
Its not that I rather spend more time playing mmo'S but just like everyone needs there own personal time to relax and come down, I should also have my personal time

Well, when she takes her free time, you'll take yours. Otherwise, tough luck mate. I doubt she needs you next to her whenever she goes to the bathroom or has studies/work to do.

In my opion the longer you two are together the worse its gonna get. She is setting you up to make a choice down the road Her or your Gaming ?

Tera is the best MMO for relationships with your girlfriend.

I've played pretty much every MMO under the sun, including GW2, which she liked very much, but Tera was definitely the best for us.  A lot of people complain about Tera's linear gameplay, this is actually a huge plus when you are playing with your girlfriend.  In GW2 I would stop in the middle of a heart quest to do an event, and that would drive her crazy.  Also GW2 has a lot of false choices in class design, she didn't understand the concept of min/maxing stats and that would lead to arguments.  Last but not least the game doesn't have the trinity, so I would be slaughtering my group of mobs and she would be getting killed by her group.

Tera's linear structure might make the game more repetitive, but it also leads to a lot less arguments, which is a next boost in quality time together.  She picks a dps class and she has all the tools she needs to do her job effectively, I pick a tank and hold aggro so she can focus on doing her job which is dps, and everybody has a good time.  She's also the artistic type so she likes games that look beautiful, but she doesn't like spending money on high end gaming rigs.  Tera just looks so much better on lower settings then most MMOs.

And keep in mind, I'm not bashing either game, as a veteran gamer I enjoy both games for their unique styles.  However since we are talking about game relationships, out of all the mmos we tried together, Tera was definitely #1 on her list, and since she wears the pants in the relationship, it's #1 on my list as well.

Originally posted by Bigbadwlf

Tera is the best MMO for relationships with your girlfriend.

I've played pretty much every MMO under the sun, including GW2, which she liked very much, but Tera was definitely the best for us.  A lot of people complain about Tera's linear gameplay, this is actually a huge plus when you are playing with your girlfriend.  In GW2 I would stop in the middle of a heart quest to do an event, and that would drive her crazy.  Also GW2 has a lot of false choices in class design, she didn't understand the concept of min/maxing stats and that would lead to arguments.  Last but not least the game doesn't have the trinity, so I would be slaughtering my group of mobs and she would be getting killed by her group.

Tera's linear structure might make the game more repetitive, but it also leads to a lot less arguments, which is a next boost in quality time together.  She picks a dps class and she has all the tools she needs to do her job effectively, I pick a tank and hold aggro so she can focus on doing her job which is dps, and everybody has a good time.  She's also the artistic type so she likes games that look beautiful, but she doesn't like spending money on high end gaming rigs.  Tera just looks so much better on lower settings then most MMOs.

And keep in mind, I'm not bashing either game, as a veteran gamer I enjoy both games for their unique styles.  However since we are talking about game relationships, out of all the mmos we tried together, Tera was definitely #1 on her list, and since she wears the pants in the relationship, it's #1 on my list as well.

I'm surprised she doesn't object to the pedophile depiction of little girls in short skirts in TERA.

Most of the women I know object strongly to that stuff. Then too, they have kids, so maybe that's why they have that perspective.

I can't get past you saying come instead of calm. Seriously?

I play MMOs with my significant other. No issues here.

I tried very hard to get my wife into MMORPG gaming, even buying her accounts to DAOC and WOW back in the early days but it just didn' t stick.  She claims she doesn't want to get her life tied up in gaming like I do.

Not sure if its a matter of not liking any gaming (she'll play spider solitare for a few hours) or I haven't found the right MMO that might be of more interest than the combat/PVP focused titles I favor.

We've had our blow ups over gaming, one time she gave me the ultimatum, it was either I chose her or gaming.  I told her it was nice knowing her but I thought it was a silly reason to end a 25 year marriage (true story)

Thing is, I'm not one of those 40+ hour a week gamers, at my peak I probably never did more than 25 hours and these days I'm lucky if I game more than 15 hours a week.

I also started using a gaming laptop so I could at least be in the same room as her while she watches TV and I've learned to half follow along so I can do the proper feedback with a "wow, that's great, bad etc" when prompted. (always easier if watching a rerun of something I've seen before)

When I married her video games were in bars and arcades, so we never forsaw the direction my passion for board games at the time would take me. (used to love to play Axis and Allies, Conquest of the Empire etc)

As for playing video games with my girlfriend, I don't think my wife would like that very much.