Hey, guys,

My girlfriend and I have been looking for an MMO that we can both get in to together.   I've done some research on the Web, but didn't come up with much, so I figured I'd ask here. 

I am:

A competative Gamer who enjoys a medium amount of grind, non-combat and combat based elements in a game, (PvP and PvM as well as crafting, creating, skilling, etc.)  I'm not picky about game popularity or community size, but I do not want to pay over ten dollars for a monthly fee or play a game where most bonuses and high end items are buyable from an official game store.  My ideal MMO would be one where you paid a small monthly fee and couldn't really purchase anything else with Real Cash that gave you any sort of up in the game world.

She is:

Very non-combat skill oriented and a relaxed gamer.  She loves things like mining, crafting, fishing, smithing, prospecting, tailoring, etc.  She is fine with grinding and doesn't like to do much related to PvP, but enjoys PvM play.  Her pay standards are the same as mine. 

If anyone can reccomend any games, we'd love to get any information we can on them.  Also, we've tried a few game already and they haven't worked for both of us:

-Guild Wars (I played it for years but she can't get into it.)

-Runescape (We both played years ago but refuse to return.)

-Ragnarok Online (Neither of us really liked it)

-Maple Story (Neither of us liked it)

-Lord of the Rings Online (I couldn't get into it, and too much of the content was pay-based by mini-transactions)

-World of Warcraft (Too expensive, way too much grind for both of us.  Very hard to get into at this point)

Hm, maybe Everquest 2 but I am not sure sicne I not looked into it since their free to play offer.

Rift would be my recommendation.  Its not released yet, but the beta starts tomorrow.   Check it out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Hc2ZZcu-2o&feature=player_embedded

www.riftgame.com

Tried Aion? It has all that you stated that she liked.

I've gotten some pretty bad reviews on the combat/levelling/community in Aion.  We haven't tried it, but we don't want to buy the game just to figure out that we don't like it or it's too tough to get into.

I'll check up on Rift, though.  As for Everquest, it's too time consuming for both of us.

Aion is a lot less grindy now.  But if you think WoW is grindy then you should consider not playing MMO's.  WoW is the least grindy mmo there ever was.

y wife and I have had success playing aion together.  We tried EvE and neither one of us liked it much.  We played WoW for a bit and found it keyboard facerolling easy.  We also tried warhammer online.  While we both liked the game it has a lack of players so we didn't like the non community of it.  Currently we are playing Aion.  We were going to play FF14 because we really enjoyed FF11 together but it gets such bad reviews.

Final fantasy 11 is such a group based game that it lends itself to couples really.  Working together you can do so much more than by yourselves.

Just watched the trailer for Rift and read some early reviews online.  It seems far more combat oriented then anything else.  Does it actually offer a variety of things outside combat, or is that unknown?

Also, for WoW, the issue is less of the grind and more of the time investment to get into it and then the fact that you can't really have a casual style.  I played WoW two years ago and decided it really wasn't for me. 

Outside of combat they offer crafting, collections, acheivements, etc.   There is TONS and TONS of lore behind this game too.   Trion has really done its due diligence so far.

Originally posted by gauge2k3

Aion is a lot less grindy now.  But if you think WoW is grindy then you should consider not playing MMO's.  WoW is the least grindy mmo there ever was.

 

y wife and I have had success playing aion together.  We tried EvE and neither one of us liked it much.  We played WoW for a bit and found it keyboard facerolling easy.  We also tried warhammer online.  While we both liked the game it has a lack of players so we didn't like the non community of it.  Currently we are playing Aion.  We were going to play FF14 because we really enjoyed FF11 together but it gets such bad reviews.

 

Final fantasy 11 is such a group based game that it lends itself to couples really.  Working together you can do so much more than by yourselves.

I got a suggestion for FF11, but I heard the servers will close soon with the release of FF14, which my roomate tried and warned me harshly against for the same reasons you state above. 

Originally posted by Averus

Originally posted by gauge2k3

Aion is a lot less grindy now.  But if you think WoW is grindy then you should consider not playing MMO's.  WoW is the least grindy mmo there ever was.

 

y wife and I have had success playing aion together.  We tried EvE and neither one of us liked it much.  We played WoW for a bit and found it keyboard facerolling easy.  We also tried warhammer online.  While we both liked the game it has a lack of players so we didn't like the non community of it.  Currently we are playing Aion.  We were going to play FF14 because we really enjoyed FF11 together but it gets such bad reviews.

 

Final fantasy 11 is such a group based game that it lends itself to couples really.  Working together you can do so much more than by yourselves.

I got a suggestion for FF11, but I heard the servers will close soon with the release of FF14, which my roomate tried and warned me harshly against for the same reasons you state above. 

lmao ff11 servers are not closing anytime soon.  But be ready for some seriously dated graphics if you go that route.

Originally posted by gauge2k3

Originally posted by Averus

Originally posted by gauge2k3

Aion is a lot less grindy now.  But if you think WoW is grindy then you should consider not playing MMO's.  WoW is the least grindy mmo there ever was.

 

y wife and I have had success playing aion together.  We tried EvE and neither one of us liked it much.  We played WoW for a bit and found it keyboard facerolling easy.  We also tried warhammer online.  While we both liked the game it has a lack of players so we didn't like the non community of it.  Currently we are playing Aion.  We were going to play FF14 because we really enjoyed FF11 together but it gets such bad reviews.

 

Final fantasy 11 is such a group based game that it lends itself to couples really.  Working together you can do so much more than by yourselves.

I got a suggestion for FF11, but I heard the servers will close soon with the release of FF14, which my roomate tried and warned me harshly against for the same reasons you state above. 

lmao ff11 servers are not closing anytime soon.  But be ready for some seriously dated graphics if you go that route.

Graphics aren't a huge issue for us.  What I'd like to know, though, is a little bit more about the gameplay/community of FF11.

Maybe... Vanguard or Aion.

EQ2 is pretty time consuming but for all your looking for it's probably one of the better games out there for the price now.

WoW will go crazy fast if you buy your copy start then do a refer a friend or whatever. You get some really cool gear and the xp increase when you group is really reALLY REALLY FFFAAASSSTTT.......WoW is probably easier to get into now. You will have no competition for mobs and stuff all the way through BC pretty much because everyone with be in cataclysm. You can get tons of help, there's a massive amount of decent guilds that will help you 2 out. You can basically do everything except heroics if you choose a good duo. (I personally don't like or play WoW anymore but it would be fun for you 2 if you haven't played it out.) 

Are you only looking for fantasy style MMO's? Fallen Earth is a post-apoc game. Graphics are a bit rough on the eyes but its all about crafting and creating stuff you use in the game. 

My wife is actually going to start gaming with me for the first time. She's gonna start out with DC Universe Online when it launches. It's mostly combat but there will be some nice communities built around the game and some pretty cool events and stuff.

Try an mmo that provides a free trial, mentioed by others.  But in all honesty, if you favor a game that is newer, and perhaps garner a large community, as opposed to an older game where fewer play, I'd look into Rift.  Launching probably Q1.

Originally posted by Averus

 

Also, for WoW, the issue is less of the grind and more of the time investment to get into it and then the fact that you can't really have a casual style.  I played WoW two years ago and decided it really wasn't for me. 

 Depends on what your idea of casual style is hehe I played wow for 5 years and I never really was a raider/dungeon crawler or a gear hound for that matter,there is plenty to do w/o being tied to a schedule for raids etc.You said you troed it and didnt like it I respect that everyones tatse is different just was replying trying to understand how you think you cant have a casual playstyle in it.

Well you should decide a pay type first.  WoW and the like are all p2p and will cost you around 15 a month.  Perfect World Entertainment and those games and type are F2P (LotR included) but have that "if you give us money you get so far ahead the game isn't fun anymore" mentality.  Once you choose, you'll most likely come to p2p.  If you can't afford that, I'd say just don't play an MMO and look for random cutesy games online.  Guild Wars didn't work and that defies above genres, so you're pretty much going on empty.  WoW has all the stuff for both of you just because it does cater to every playstyle but you probably won't be playing together, just...next to each other, haha.  Go with your gut and what your wallet can handle.  I've seen an array of suggestions from many people on what game to play, but trying them out always sparks my own conflicting opinions anyway...so just gotta keep trying.  Good luck!

Originally posted by Averus

I've gotten some pretty bad reviews on the combat/levelling/community in Aion.  We haven't tried it, but we don't want to buy the game just to figure out that we don't like it or it's too tough to get into.

 

I'll check up on Rift, though.  As for Everquest, it's too time consuming for both of us.

Aion is much more grindy than WoW, and the crafting was terrible (played it for the first 2 months of release in NA).  Honestly, from everything you've listed, WoW was probably your best shot (and, if $15/mo versus $10/mo is too big of a price jump, you probably need to find F2P and B2P games only).  If WoW was too hard to get into, I don't think you'll like Rift (which I think will be P2P as well anyways).

Probably the best one upcoming that may work outside of WoW is GW2 (neither my wife nor I like GW due to the heavy instancing, but GW2 looks to be resolving that issue)...but that is realistically a year away or so.

Originally posted by Asheram

Originally posted by Averus

 

Also, for WoW, the issue is less of the grind and more of the time investment to get into it and then the fact that you can't really have a casual style.  I played WoW two years ago and decided it really wasn't for me. 

 Depends on what your idea of casual style is hehe I played wow for 5 years and I never really was a raider/dungeon crawler or a gear hound for that matter,there is plenty to do w/o being tied to a schedule for raids etc.You said you troed it and didnt like it I respect that everyones tatse is different just was replying trying to understand how you think you cant have a casual playstyle in it.

The idea is that a casual playstyle will never get you into the next level of gameplay in WoW.  I liked Guild Wars because it didn't matter when I logged in or how often, I could take the time I had and play the hardest dungeons and GvG at the same time, not because I dumped thousands of hours into it, but because I knew how to play the game ^^.

If you don't want a cash shop, then I think you need to accept that most mmos these days are 15 a month.  

My girlfriend and I play Darkfall Online.  She is new to mmos and I'm experienced.  She also likes crafting and gathering and pve over pvp.  We recently joined a clan and there is another couple that plays as well.   We are both having a lot of fun.

There is no cash shop and the world is open to explore.  If you lose some gear in pvp, its usually trivial especially if you are in a guild that helps support new characters.  The sense of community is strong because of the reliance on others to succeed.

Originally posted by Averus

Hey, guys,

 

My girlfriend and I have been looking for an MMO that we can both get in to together.   I've done some research on the Web, but didn't come up with much, so I figured I'd ask here. 

I am:

A competative Gamer who enjoys a medium amount of grind, non-combat and combat based elements in a game, (PvP and PvM as well as crafting, creating, skilling, etc.)  I'm not picky about game popularity or community size, but I do not want to pay over ten dollars for a monthly fee or play a game where most bonuses and high end items are buyable from an official game store.  My ideal MMO would be one where you paid a small monthly fee and couldn't really purchase anything else with Real Cash that gave you any sort of up in the game world.

 

She is:

Very non-combat skill oriented and a relaxed gamer.  She loves things like mining, crafting, fishing, smithing, prospecting, tailoring, etc.  She is fine with grinding and doesn't like to do much related to PvP, but enjoys PvM play.  Her pay standards are the same as mine. 

 

If anyone can reccomend any games, we'd love to get any information we can on them.  Also, we've tried a few game already and they haven't worked for both of us:

 

-Guild Wars (I played it for years but she can't get into it.)

-Runescape (We both played years ago but refuse to return.)

-Ragnarok Online (Neither of us really liked it)

-Maple Story (Neither of us liked it)

-Lord of the Rings Online (I couldn't get into it, and too much of the content was pay-based by mini-transactions)

-World of Warcraft (Too expensive, way too much grind for both of us.  Very hard to get into at this point)

 I play darkfall with my wife and she loves it no matter what your gaming backgroun is i recommend you try Darkfall there is a free trial u cant go wrong. its a great came to play as a couple you both can get alot done and enjoy crafting,harvesting, pve and pvp. This game whille change your gaming experience as mmo's go there is nothing like this please contact me for more info!

We just started a clan called Sinners n Saints on Na server