Just a friendly warning by the way, this post contains lots of drama just putting that here ahead of time.

Basically, I never liked MMO kind of games (I played console games and still do, but I wasn't into the online game scene very much. I did try some online games for free like ragnarok trials, and other free ones) but  I didn't like them mainly because I found it boring as it takes a long time to get higher levels, items, etc.)  Anyways!  

About 2  years ago  the ex I was with purchased me a WoW account to play with him (he insisted to try it with him) and so I did. I actually liked this game allot, although honestly I think alone it wouldn't have been as fun. The leveling was not as tough and I liked all the players and active community in cities and such.

Well, me and him broke up quite a long time ago (wasn't a very "good" ending either) so naturally I quit playing as I wasn't comfortable with it. Lately though (I blame my sudden boost in free time) I've been wanting to play it again, and was reading about the new expansion coming out as well. The problem is I know myself, If I played again it'll be very depressing for me, to say the least. I'l feel bad because of the memories and what have you, and odds are I won't enjoy it, or it'll just be a negative experience alltogether.

So it's a very odd situation, I want to play it because it was enjoyable and I would like to continue, but at the same time I know It'll be dramatic for me, which sucks...so I'm not really sure what to do..

Oh and I hope it's allright to post this here, I know it sounds like some teenage rant, but Idk..it is relating to WoW at least..

the game will remind you of your ex, but if you are ok with that then i say give it a try.

I'd say play the game - but don't play by yourself: find someone (or more than one person) in RL who wants to tag along. That'll keep your mind away from your ex whilst at the same time: keeping your mind into WoW, yourself, your character, your RL friend and most impotantly: keeping your mind in having fun.

If you want to, I can throw you a resurrection spell and you can see the game for yourself.
The newest patch is still hot and had brought a lot of nice changes - you might like the new Achievement.

If you can get someone new to join WoW, I think the recruit a friend program is still going and you can take advantage of that.

try it on another server or if your someone that enjoys pvp try warhammer instead because it makes warcraft look very dull in terms of that style of gameplay . if you like pve stick with wow because wow does to the pve better .

Yeh....I say play another server....and play the opposite faction you used to play....at least for a bit

A completely different character.

And don't say anything about this in-game....or not until you have made some new friends.  Rabid teen boys will be all over you if you give them this.

Just jump in and play...might be tough for a few weeks but you'll meet new people and you'll be having a blast in no time.

I know how you feel.

I was with my ex girlfriend 10 years together, playing WoW since the Beta, always together. I was still very much in love with her when she broke with me and immediately afterwards i tried to continue WoW alone, but every part of the world held some memories of our adventures together. I remember us defending crossroads, roleplaying x-mas events, doing battlegrounds all night, emoting kisses and hugs...it was such a wonderful time.

I even saw her some time with another guy playing (a rogue she also made an arena team with him and a 2-man guild, even though she hated arena before...) and it hurt a lot. I then stopped totally but even looking at her armory profile from time to time makes me sad.

After 6 months i tried again, on another server, its ok, but all the memories kill me still. But its the same with movies we watched together and places we have been.

Even being now in a new relationship (she doesnt play games...), i think i will never get over her.

Warhammer was a fix, but its too few atmosphere/roleplaying for me.

The only thing i can say to you is to try it again and see how you go for a month. Yes memories will play apart, but you may find some people online (maybe even a nice guild), were you could be made to fit in and then find the game fun. I would wait till the expansion has come out though myself (think thats in about another 2-3 weeks) so now would be a good time to think about it some more. Don't let your old relationship deter you from doing something you might start to enjoy again.

Happy gaming on whatever you decide to do :)

Thanks guys n gals, I suppose I need to first get enough cash somehow to transfer my characters over to a new server (sorta sucks that you have to pay for EACH character rather than just a solid price for the transfer, I have allot of characters!)

I think if i moved servers and had a play buddy I think I could enjoy it again.

Oh and to the one that mentioned the whole checking the armory page, yeah..I used to do that, it was extremely hurtfull so I forced myself to stop.

It's ok Xioca =) I dont mind drama.

I share a similer story but with EQ2.

I eventually moved over to Wow. I dont play it as much as I used to but I go back and visit my characters from time to time and check out new content.

It's not a teenage rant, I work in a call center. You'd be surprised how many 'adults' have teenage rants over the silliest things

Simple prevention measure for this sort of situation:  If you start hanging out with a girl and find out she plays WoW, RUN THE OTHER WAY before even getting to dating.  My past girlfriends were at best casual players, we never played together, and when the relationship ends WoW doesn't hurt.  So get a g/f that has no interest in video games!  (tho it doesn't hurt if she understands when you're raiding on a Friday night )

Hehe..there is truth to what you say, although my ex was a guy but it's the same concept regardless.  Obviously WoW is allready ruined for me thanks to him though, so running away is no longer an option

I'l just have to wait for now and see what happens.

I don't know if I want to get back into WoW just because it's kind of nice actually having free time. Anyway, to the OP I reccommend joining a small friendly guild, then just see how it goes. And like another poster said, try not to make it clear that you're a girl in game - even guys half way across the world will be trying to get into your pants (but I'm sure you already know this) =D

Getting a GF who isnt interested in games isnt a solution.

My ex was playing starcraft, WoW, Dawn of War etc with me on LAN and also had an addiction to Oblivion, Sims etc. So spending evenings on the computer was never a problem.  She also liked playing PS2 and had interests in fantasy/horror/scifi movies.

As i said before she broke with me and afterwards went into hardcore WoW gaming. We were casual WoW gamers before but after the split she formed guilds went arena farming and was decked in epix after 2 months.

Days after separation i still logged on with my druid (we leveled to 70 together) and did a /who to see if she is online etc. But playing was painful to me, very much. I still had mini-pets and presents from her in my bank and all together it was a very disturbing experience. I quit then, but "stalked" her on the armory just to become more sad.

Then i found my new GF, who sadly isnt into games at all (she plays occasionally flash games) but she doesnt mind me playing games. I thought its better that way, after being together with a gaming girl for 10 years, but i miss having "insider talks" with my ex or doing alterac valley together sunday afternoon.

6 months later my ex called and wanted to come back to me. I was in my new relationship and when she heard it, she stopped communicating with me.

I am now married to my new GF (and she is cute and all) but i found out that it still hurts when i think of my ex, very much. I occasionally log into the wow forum and see she is still posting there; everytime i do it i fall into deep depressions sadly. I miss talking to her. And even though raiding isnt a problem with my new GF i feel like i am living in "another world" sometimes; alone.

I guess there is only one real love in life. I feel guilty that i still love my ex. So, THATS drama .

I never really give away my gender easily, I just..well play lol, if they ask, I tell, that's about it.  I didn't have to much trouble with creeps/weirdos when I played though, mainly since my ex was around to keep the hormones at bay.

In any case,  I plan to try WoW again as soon as I get money to transfer, so I look forward to finishing up my character and trying out the two expansions (we never got to even the 70 stuff)

I just have to think of a way to make some cash first, but I suppose thats another problem alltogether

Honesty you should try WAR or wait for AION.... WoW isnt going to be for you because of your ex....

grrr now I'm unsure again... it sucks how one person can totally ruin a game for you..

I contemplated coming back to play but the problem I have is starting at level 1 again and finding that noone is in Azeroth to group with. When I played, I played 4 months before TBC and I had a fun time but when the expansion came out, the old lands soon become a barren wasteland with noone around. Not quite sure I would be willing to do that again.

See a shrink

We can't change your feelings and we can't tell you what to do.
You are your own person, you figure it out.

Can't brainwash you...

Originally posted by grues0me

I guess there is only one real love in life. I feel guilty that i still love my ex. So, THATS drama .

 

No, there isn't only one real "love" in life. I feel you need to get therapy. I don't say that to be insulting, but when I was young I felt as you do after a break up. then I grew up. Best thing that ever happened to me.

I realized that the best person to be with is ... ready... wait for it... wait for it... someone you want to be with AND who wants to be with you. And who isn't poison.

And you know what?

All my relationships after I was able to come to that revelation have been good. I'm even friends (actual friends) with several exes. Healthy relationships are amazing. You will be shocked once you try one. And assuming you love your wife you owe it to her to clean your system out. Especially before you bring children into it.

You will eventually be able to look at someone you dated and realize that they were not right for you. And really KNOW it.

It's liberating and very healthy and open you up to be with somoene who really loves you and really supports you and vice versa.

As far as the OP goes:

You are obviously not ready to be on the same server as this person. As others have said, transfer characters. Don't put yourself in a situation that is going to poison you or put you in a horrible postion.

If a person says they are over someone but they still go by their house to see if they are around or are constantly checking to see if they are online (sort of psuedo stalking) then you are probably not over them. If you can't look at them be with someone else then you are probably not over them or at least not in a great place. you might just need a lot of space.

Don't gotta be harsh about it Mars..

And yes I know I need to transfer, that's my current concern now like I mentioned above, but that's not reallya debatable concern, just gotta get some money.

Originally posted by grues0me

6 months later my ex called and wanted to come back to me. I was in my new relationship and when she heard it, she stopped communicating with me.

I am now married to my new GF (and she is cute and all) but i found out that it still hurts when i think of my ex, very much. I occasionally log into the wow forum and see she is still posting there; everytime i do it i fall into deep depressions sadly. I miss talking to her. And even though raiding isnt a problem with my new GF i feel like i am living in "another world" sometimes; alone.

I guess there is only one real love in life. I feel guilty that i still love my ex. So, THATS drama .

no doubt that is drama.  but you should know that many of your feelings for your ex are not as real as they seem.  it is in our nature to seek the drama in our lives.. and amplify it.  you romanticize all of the good things about your ex.  the fact that she left you just makes you want her more psychologically.  i recommend putting a bit of effort in seeing the things you love about your wife and thinking about some of the negative issues your ex has.  in my experience, love can blind you from your true feelings.

i could be wrong and maybe your ex is really the one for you.  if you really believe this, then you should have a real conversation with your ex to try and cut through some of the blinding drama.  it may be worth it to be completely honest with everyone... so long as you can be completely honest with yourself.  otherwise, you live the rest of your life with soul-staining innerdeception.

good luck bro, on whatever you do.  drama indeed.

Originally posted by ghogiel

I'd say play the game - but don't play by yourself: find someone (or more than one person) in RL who wants to tag along. That'll keep your mind away from your ex whilst at the same time: keeping your mind into WoW, yourself, your character, your RL friend and most impotantly: keeping your mind in having fun.

If you want to, I can throw you a resurrection spell and you can see the game for yourself.
The newest patch is still hot and had brought a lot of nice changes - you might like the new Achievement.

If you can get someone new to join WoW, I think the recruit a friend program is still going and you can take advantage of that.

Is there really such thing as a "ressurection spell" that activates an account to come back for a few days to see the changes? I've been looking to come back as well since the x-pac is coming out.. but I'm subbed to WAR for now and don't want to spend the extra $15 if I'm not going to play for sure.

Ah - ok. I just looked it up.

If someone wants a shot at a free month (more than likely i'll renew my account just to see the x-pac) send me a PM and toss a resurrection spell my way. Would like to get in before release to see some of the new talents though.

Originally posted by Plaidpants

Ah - ok. I just looked it up.

If someone wants a shot at a free month (more than likely i'll renew my account just to see the x-pac) send me a PM and toss a resurrection spell my way. Would like to get in before release to see some of the new talents though.

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