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Ive been involved with this forums for a long time and i would like to think of it almost as a second home.... I know that im breaking a major rule by posting this but please help me out... My parents have been verbally/mentally abusing me for some time now.. They have hit me a few times but not to much.. I am adopted and it seems as though my parents and my sisters (who i was once close to) use me as a outlet for their anger. I broke down, after class one day and told my english teacher everything that has been happening.. i always though that it was my fault... that i was just evil... he made me understand that it isnt me.. that they use me as a tool to make themselves feel better about themselves... He contacted a social worker... and i have a meeting tommor...  This is were i am having conflicting interest.... i keep asking myself... what if its in my head?... are things really bad enough for me to leave? and were will i go?... I have taken 16 years of this and i dont think i take any more... This isnt normal teen vs. parents... ive never felt like ive had a home... im just scared right now and dont know what to do for sure... any ideas?

It is time for the social worker to save you.  Learn from this and move on.  I know it can't be easy leaving your parents behind, even when they hurt you, but this is just too far.  I do not really know what else to say...

thanks for that.... its just its made me were im not sure about myself anymore.... i feel although ive always been told the sky is green  and i finally looked up today and it was blue... im hoping that if im able to get a part-time job i can live with my uncle... he has kicked out his own kids but .. that was mainly due to them refusing to go to school and fighting him... it has gotten to the point were my parents wont take me to school.. they use that as a weapon against me... its just i have no idea how i will support myself or where i will live

if you replace spouse with parent.. that what i have gone through... with a little physical abuse..

http://ezinearticles.com/?Mental-Abuse---The-7-Most-Important-Things-To-Know&id=60849

I hadnt told my enlinsh teacher about the physical abuse... it only happened a handful of times.. but the mental was and still is all the time... horrible fighting... my mom told me that if she could back that she wouldnt adopt me... but then the next day, everything would be fine... and she claims that she never said that.. they always blamed me and i totally bought into it...  the thing that im having problems with is my physical well-being  for the near future... i dont want a hand out im not trying to scam anyone.. I just need to talk it out.. and i trust this forum more than any family member.. and none of my friends know

Whether what you're feeling is justifiable is not important.  You feel the way you do for a reason.  Your family may be abusive to you - or you may be suffering from depression or another psychological disorder that makes you believe they are abusive to you. Your parents may be noticing signs that say you are in trouble.  You, as a teenager, may have a problem recognizing these signs. 

Whatever the situation or reason, you do need to talk to that social worker and get a process going.  You're certainly not "healthy" this way.  Just because a parent hits you does not make them abusive.  Done properly, it's a form of "discipline."  Unforunately, many parents do not understand the proper use of corporal punishment, and for sure, by the time you're a teenager, the time for it is long past.  That still doesn't make it purposeful abuse - your parents may just not know better.  They're at a loss for how to get you to "act right" and resort to hitting when their patience runs thin.

Again, intervention is probably the proper way to go.  Talk to the social worker.  Don't exaggerate or minimize.  Be as honest and truthful as you can.  Good luck to you!

That pretty much sums up the problems im facing... I thought it was me for so long.. but if i had some kind of mental disorder... it would show in other aspects of my life, correct? My english teacher has known me for a year and said that i am one of about 3 students that have actively engaged in class... None of teachers think i have any home problem... I tried to keep home and school life seperate because i thought that i was the problem....

"Whether what you're feeling is justifiable is not important.  You feel the way you do for a reason.  Your family may be abusive to you - or you may be suffering from depression or another psychological disorder that makes you believe they are abusive to you. Your parents may be noticing signs that say you are in trouble.  You, as a teenager, may have a problem recognizing these signs. "

Thats my number one fear... is that i go and it is all me... Ive thought about not going tuesday... i keep going back and forth... its just that i can think of many times that my mother has used prejection to have things her way... like using it to make my relationship with my grandparents good to almost non existancant... and isnt  the whole point of mental abuse to make it feel like its my fault? its just hard... i dont have a white or black feeling on the subject... i feel like im a weak grey... 

wait...are you 28?

Originally posted by Enigma

wait...are you 28?

no im 16... sorry i guess when i made this account i was in a hurry... my birthdate is 11/19/91

ah ok, Im sorry. I was going to say maybe you should move away from your parents if you are 28...but since  you are not, thats another story.

Only thing I can tell you is to hang in there and tell the Social Worker everything and be completely hon