It's really weird because noone ever allows you to have some self pity, all people are like is stop being soo pathetic and get over it. I just wanna know why before something bad happens people are like "i'm there for you" but after something bad happens then people just don't seem to wanna know. It's like say if you were in a crash and they heard you were drinking drunk but crashed and in hospital, they'd coming rushing down and care. However after your fine they throw everything out the window and become angry at you and hate you then never talk to you again because you made a mistake of driving drunk.

Another example is say you were with a long term partner for 5 or so years and then they cheat on you and find someone else, your left wondering what happened, everything was fine and they were lying to you for months. You'd be sad because you lost like a major part of your life and ofcorse you'd want to drown your sorrows or w/e. However all people ever say is things like "you'll get over it" or "we've all been there" lol, how come noone's ever going through the same thing at the same time. How come all the people you talk about it don't seem to understand and all they say is the same old "you'll get over it" and it's like that doesn't help. You know what would help is if you told me in detail what happened when you went through it and like tell me a story or something, cause saying all the bad things of what you went through makes it more comforting.


I just really think we're all alone together and none of us have been through the same things because everyones mind is different. People don't understand you because they arn't the person who has feelings for the other person so they just say you'll get over it cause they don't actually care. I know people don't like people who moan or in self pity, but i don't understand why we have this attitude? Maybe some of us want to be sad and not hide everything a way and pretend we're ok just to tip toe around of what other people think.

What i do know now is the only person you can trust is yourself and as soon as you decide to trust someone else, thats when they stab you in the back. Alot of people say they arn't like that but i think we're all like that and even if you don't think so in the right situation you'll stab someone else in the back. I always thought you just couldn't trust women but turns out you can't trust your mates because they'll act all nice to your face and then behind your back they'll sleep with your partner because all that drives people these days is sex. Everything is about sex and people just being tempted all the time and it makes me sick tbh.

What i don't like is how society wants you to lie otherwise noone likes you. What i mean is even the little things like trying not to offend someone like if a woman says "does my bum look big in this?" and it does but you say no just because she wont like the reaction, thats just training you to be a snake and lie in the future. Tbh i've always been honest and if someone asks me something i always tell them the truth. However because of how i am i don't have many friends and they can't take the truth for some reason, i just think if somethings wrong then you'd wanna know instead of lying about it acting like it's all fine.

Sorry but if your bum looks big in something then i'll tell you and then you wont look like a retard and might even go to the gym and it would be better for your health. If i say it doesn't when it does then you'll walk round and people will laugh behind your back because they're too pussy to tell you to your face, so really why call me a prick when i'm telling you the truth and helping you out?

Anyways thats my rant of the day, i'm starting to really hate people lol, soon i'll be turning emo lol.

People with the best intentions can find that the reality of giving comfort to someone in such positions you mention is that it's time consuming and emotionally draining, or uncomfortable dealing with such deep felt emotions and maybe they don't want to be reminded of their own hurts. It's at these times in your life when you find out who your friends really are.

Originally posted by miffywiffy

Tbh i've always been honest and if someone asks me something i always tell them the truth. However because of how i am i don't have many friends and they can't take the truth for some reason, i just think if somethings wrong then you'd wanna know instead of lying about it acting like it's all fine.

Lol. I'm a little that way myself. If someone asks my opinion when it goes against their expectations, I either tell the truth or try to find some way around the issue. Not until a few years ago did I find out that when someone asks you how you're doing it's just a greeting and they don't want to know how you're actually doing. I used to tell them the truth too. Lol.  My mom told me that she liked how I thought about the question every time I was asked it because I would literally pause and go into my stare-off-into-space mode whenever I'm thinking. The answer was usually, "Pretty good," though because things are actually pretty good.

Some of the most awkward moments I've had were in a Creative Writing course I took some years ago in which we had to critique other peer's works. I had a tendency to open my mouth a little too wide sometimes, and I felt like a jack-a$$ for it later. But I agree. It takes a good friend to tell you the truth. To paraphrase one of my favorite quotes: That dress doesn't make you look fat; your fat makes you look fat.

Part of it is tough love. (at least in my case) if they're saying it and they really do care about you, they're probably just doing it so you can get a tougher skin and not sulk over the past. The world keeps moving forward whether you like it or not, so you have to make the decision whether you want to keep moving or be left behind. Your friends are simply trying to give you a forceful shove forward so you don't sulk the rest of your life.

You'll get over it.