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Author: scx316

Ex-Blizzard Employee Divorces Husband Over WoW

Posted by scx316 Tuesday February 19 2008 at 2:27PM
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A resident of California who worked briefly for Blizzard has recently divorced her husband of 6 years because of World of Warcraft. According to her, his addictions of the game distorted their marriage. Never playing the game herself, 28 year-old Jocelyn stated the her husband Peter’s crippling addiction to the game was to much for her to handle.

“He would get home from work at 6:00, start playing at 6:30, and he’d play until three a.m. Weekends were worse - it was from morning straight through until the middle of the night. It took away all of our time that we spent together. I ceased to exist in his life.”

Having been friends with Peter since the age of 13 and married for six years, it only took as little as nine months for the marriage to collapse after she gave him the game as a gift.

“I bought the game for him for Christmas 2004, when it first came out. By May we had our first serious discussion about where our marriage was going, and by September I had moved out.”

After she had many discussions with Peter about how WoW had taken over Peter’s life, she tried to intervene and schedule some time for the married couple to spend time with one another but to no avail. On one occasion Jocelyn had set aside 30 minutes for the two to watch a favorite TV show together but Peter refused because he was in the middle of a raid and couldn’t understand why she was upset that he stood her up. Eventually, Peters life started to suffer as he refused to pay bills and do his share of the housework.

Although Jocelyn is a gamer herself, she never had an interest of playing WoW because she recognized it was a game that had no end. She also states that Wow was the sole reason for her divorce and still very emotional on the impact it had on her marriage.

“I’m real, and you’re giving me up for a fantasy land. You’re destroying your life, your six-year marriage, and you’re giving it up for something that isn’t even real. [Blizzard] built it in such a way that you have to keep putting more and more time into it to maintain your status. I remember thinking when I was married that it was downright exploitative to people who couldn’t control themselves in that way. It’s set up like a drug.”

Because of the emotional scares of her divorce and the reasons surrounding it, Jocelyn has decided that next time around, she will stay clear of gamers

I think it is very Ironic that Jocelyn bought Wow for her husband which lead to their divorce. However, I think the blame sets solely on Peter. Because of instances like this, everyone tries to say that Blizzard is all bad and WoW should be shut down but it’s the person’s fault that gets so into the game where they can’t do anything else. The choice between playing a video game and paying your bills shouldn’t be a hard one and if it is you should always go with the latter.

It’s going to be funny when there are rehabilitation centers that are specifically setup for gamers. I say this is funny because unlike cigarettes and drugs, there is no chemical affecting your body when getting addicted to video games.

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zergwatch writes:

Crap, I lost my stiffy in the first sentence when they said  "briefly". Would have been page 1 news for me if it was some long term high profile exec.

Tue Feb 19 2008 2:41PM Report
Gishgeron writes:

I actually blame them both.

 

Its called escapism, meaning he delved THAT far into the game because he desperately wanted to escape real life often.  There was obviously some reason he wanted to BE that far removed from the real world.  As his wife, she should have tried asking him what was wrong...figured out why he didn't WANT to be in the real world so badly.

Often times...such escapism is linked to a poor relationship.  I've done it, and so have a whole lot of people I know.  When you have a serious relationship..you have to be around them all the time.  That means that if the relationship is making you miserable, you will find escapes all the time.

 

People need to spend more time actually understanding their partners instead of just jumping around and acting like everything is about THEM.  Its apparent that people today have no ideal what "marriage" means.  Here's a clue, it means that both people are gonna make mistakes and its now their JOB to work it out and grow together as people and as a couple.  Growing can't happen if its always "I wanted life to be like this, and it wasn't...so now I'm done."

Tue Feb 19 2008 4:05PM Report
Hexxeity writes:

There have been times in my life when the escape was very attractive, and I was glad to have it.  I have no regrets either, because sometimes your situation is just not great and your only option is to wait it out.  Games help pass the time in such a situation.

I currently play WoW, possibly more than I ought, but not at the detriment of my career or personal life.  Given the choice between spending time with WoW or my S.O., the S.O. will win every time.

So it's about being a grown-up and making responsible decisions.  In Jocelyn's case, I'd say she was just a poor judge of character.  Her husband was obviously not mature enough to be in a stable relationship, and she should have taken note of that before she married him.  If it hadn't been WoW, it would have been some other obsession making him impossible to live with.

Sometimes you pick a loser.  All you can do is put it behind you and move on, hopefully somewhat wiser.

Tue Feb 19 2008 5:16PM Report
Azure77 writes:

"no chemical affecting your body when getting addicted to video games."  Your body produces chemicals , addiction can come in many forms, there are addictions to high speed driving , risky behavior , risky sports , sexual addictions.

     Read any of the books written on serial killers and mental illness, any behavior that absorbs the user's logical or dicates abnormal behavior is an addiction.

      If I had been her I would havent walked out, I would have tried to intervene or get someone to help him. Anything can addiction in people prone to that form of behavior.

       As someone living with Schizophrenia, its very easy to get absorbed in a fantasy , and as someone who has struggled for years with mental illness , its takes a much stronger person to set you on the right path.

        Walking away from an individual who is clearly not in touch with reality is highly dangerous. While I dont believe games are dangerous , I do believe individuals can be , and its each persons responsiblity who is near the individual to watch for warning signs.

    

Tue Feb 19 2008 5:26PM Report
Ridgelon writes:

Its the fealing that you have to keep up with everyone else.  I'm married and have been a gamer for many many years, my  wife's a gamer too, not mmorpg though.  Its the need to advance your character that becomes overwelming and once its got a hold of you, its hard to shake.  This situation, its is completely his fault, but in his mind he was probably viewing her as an irritant and stoped caring because she was intrupting his game.  When he should have viewed it as the complete oppisit.  Yes games are addictive, to an addictive personallity.  People need to step back and look at their real reality before letting something like a six year marrage die.  Mabey he wasn't happy in the first place and this was his excuse to get out.

Tue Feb 19 2008 5:43PM Report
bruin1477 writes:

I never played WOW myself but I think that I'd still be able to make time for people. I've had my share of MMORPG's such as 9 Dragons, RF Online, and Cabal Online, but i've never let myself get engulfed by it. sure i've seen other people get higher after i come back after a week but i don't care because I HAVE A LIFE.

Tue Feb 19 2008 7:08PM Report
Rollotamasi writes:

 I got divorced about 2 years ago "over a game".  I was coming home and playing 6-7 hours a night.  After being seperated for about 3 days I came to a conclusion.  It didn't have anything to do with the game.  I just didn't like my wife.  I am now dating a girl I had a huge crush on in highschool.  I really like her.  I NEVER play my game when she is over and I have never stood her up to play.  Why?  Because I actually like her.  I have a feeling most people who let a game cause issues in their real life relationships are probably in the same boat.

Tue Feb 19 2008 8:24PM Report
noodlesan writes:

My g/f invests too much in real life and has no time for games.  Should I "divorce" her?

Tue Feb 19 2008 11:23PM Report
Aryas writes:

Based on the effect games, particularly WoW, have had on the lives of people, it's a wonder governments haven't stepped-in to address this.

Some people will slam guys like this for being 'weak' or 'retarded' or may imply he simply didn't like his partner - all of which may be true. However, I think in a lot of cases these are just ordinary people who get so swept up in the game that they lose track of reality. This guy may well have been a very productive and beneficial member of society and decent husband and you have to wonder if he should be chastised because some company game up with a product that exploited his weaknesses.

In all fairness, companies like Blizzard know full well that it takes an abnormal and unhealthy time investment to achieve the highest levels in WoW. A bit like it arguably takes an unhealthy risk to acheive the best rush off hard drugs. The difference is, drugs are regulated, games are not. To me, there's no difference in exploiting either a person's chemical or psychological vulnerability.

Now I'm not massively addicted to any game, but at the same time I can easily see how it's possible.

And broken reverse-logic comments like...

"My g/f invests too much in real life and has no time for games.  Should I "divorce" her?"

...tarnish a sensible discussion and make the poster look infantile. If you are truly unable to identify the importance of reality then I feel quite sorry for you.

Wed Feb 20 2008 12:47PM Report

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