I love passionate gamers, of all sorts. I have been called a nerd, or a dork, or even geek countless times for playing online games, and PnP Games. Sometimes it really gets on my nerves, depending on how the person says it. Usually, it is in a joking matter. Whenever i am called those names, it opens a whole new oppurtunity for me, to talk about why i play them. I love when passionate players discuss the game they are currently playing. In a civil manner anyway. I have stated a lot, that i used to be a huge flamer. I couldn't discuss mmorpg's for the life of me. My thought process would be... "No, my game is better, too bad, so sad". Learning from that, i let people discuss what their game has too offer, and maybe even playing it before i even begin talking about it. Hyping, is well... Over-rated for my taste. I like when developers release screenshots, it is just what happens afterwards that really bugs me. Players who dislike the game, will be like "Looks pretty, but i am sure it will be the suck". That really makes me mad. Your going on that, off just a few screenies? You haven't played the game yet, so it's not really your call, yet they are entitled to their own opinion. It's our choice to argue them, or just leave it alone for the time being. I am perfectly fine interacting or dicussing the game with a player, who has atleast played the game for a couple of weeks. I do not like to discuss the game, with players who have played the game for a couple of days, or even hours. It's a big waste of my time, i'm being kind of critical, but it's the truth.
Can mmorpgs be overdone in a way? Of course they can. Now, this subject is a little touchy for me, i had a friend commit suicide over an online game. It is a sad story to say the least. He was a very cool kid, and a wise one at that. He just took a game too seriously. Now, he didn't commit suicide over being ganked to much, or loss of a level. He killed himself because of how the community treated him. If your laughing, you are heart-less my friend. Here is his story, i have told this a couple of times to be honest. His family, and friends are okay with this. He was playing his game, adventuring and doing his usual grinding and questing. A un-named person appeared, wishing to party with him. He accepted because they were doing the same quests. Everyone was doing fine, and just swell until they had to go into town. This un-named person friend came online, and asked kevin(My friend), if they could go into town to meet up with him. He said sure, because he had time to spare. Ten minutes went by, and kevin accidently intercepted a message, a whisper from this un-named player stating "Dude, this kid sucks balls, he can't kill crap(Didnt' say that word), and he is just worthless!" Note: Yes, you may say thats just kids being e-thugs, or whatever. This matter is actually serious. Kevin, didn't say anything back, because he was saddened already, he just let it slide. They went back to questing, with a new player on-board. Little did kevin know, these two were making fun of him behind his back. Sad isn't it? After they completed their missions, they went back to the town, turned them in, and had gotten their rewards. Kevin, said thank you for the help, and i will be off. They said "Wait, we want to tell you something... You suck at this game, for this level your crappy, you don't even have good equipment, we had to do all the work". I don't know if they were joking, or actually being serious. Kevin was a very emotional kid, he took everything to heart. Insults, praise, whatever it may be. This really effected him, because his game was his getaway. Kevin signed off, and soon after commited suicide. (There is much more to the story, but it would be took long, i gave you some of it).
Why did i tell you this story? One, it is a very sad, but true story. You can call it whatever you want, cyber bullying, e-thugs,haters, whatever. This happened to a young teenager, it could happen to anyone one of us. Whether you are playing a pay-to-play mmorpg, or a free-to-play mmorpg. Their will be little kids, and emotional teenagers. This could happen to anyone of us. Some are weak, and some are very strong. You are always talking to a real person, with real emotions. Be careful what you say, unless you know the person whom your thrashing. I know i am just some random blogger, but i speak of a serious matter. Take this to heart, be nice, be helpful, and be thankful. A lot will come out of it, you will see.
Thanks for reading this story, i wish Kevin's parents the greatest love, and life. R.I.P

From the moment I started playing MMORPGs back in 2000, I took it seriously. I knew that all of the other players I saw running around were just representations of real people, and their gaming experience was just as important as mine.
I'm a "nice guy" both in and out of game. It's the way I've always been and it won't change. Sure we all get angry and say things we don't mean sometimes, but it's both rare and mild when it happens to me.
Being a nice guy, I've missed out on countless loot and opportunity in these games we play. It doesn't make me bitter, and it doesn't make me want to be more of a mean person. It's just the way it is. For example, I'm always honest when it comes to NBG rolls. Someone has to be.
My point is, I could never tell another player what those guys told your friend. I could never put someone down like that (outside of joking around with friends of course). I don't understand why people are like that, but you find them both in and out of games.
I'm certainly not saying i'm better than anyone else. I simply don't understand how some people can be so cruel. The teens can be a very emotional period in peoples lives. I can certainly see how that could have pushed your friend over the edge emotionally. It's very sad.
I know that there are few people that actually read these blogs.. But if just one person learns something from this, it will be a good thing.
Anyway, I am very sorry about your friend. Some people would say that you need to have thicker skin to play these games. But I think learning all of that and being able to shrug off other peoples comments comes with age more than anything else. Unless you're just one of those people with little emotion.
Acidon
Wed Nov 18 2009 9:05PM ReportThank you, for your comment. I apprechiate it. I do believe some people need thicker skins to play online games. It is cruel, and it is sad. Thanks again.
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